The five essential connections in tango

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Dancing tango is all about connection. Connection to our partners, of course, but there are other connections to be made if we are to dance tango to our fullest potential and enjoyment. There are five entities with which we need to establish a thorough connection in order to improve our dancing and our dance experience.

photo: Jacques Guibert

Connection One: The partner. This is the most obvious and indisputable connection. The old cliché “It takes two to tango” exists for a reason. Tango is the quintessential couple dance. Without a partner there is no tango.

However, this does not mean we need a regular partner. In tango, we aim to find, create and build an intense connection in a very short time. It is part of the beauty, the allure and the challenge of tango. This can be done mostly with one regular partner or a variety of rotating ones. Or both. Maybe tonight we will dance only with each other but tomorrow night we will dance with half the dancers in the room. It doesn’t matter. During each dance, everything we do should be caused or inspired by the person we are dancing with.

For both leader and follower, if we can focus more on our partners than on ourselves we will outdo ourselves in our role. If we think of taking care of our partners, of helping them by leading or following better, of waiting for and being patient for them, we will allow our partners to dance with more ease and enjoyment. In turn, we will dance with more ease and enjoyment. The tango relationship is not linear, it is circular, a constant give and take between the two partners; so whatever we give we will get back. Which brings us to the second essential connection.

photo: Jacques Guibert

Connection Two: The self. If it’s all about our partners, why do we need a deep connection with ourselves? Well, because it’s not all about our partners. It’s about the couple, and we are 50 per cent of the couple. They say you can’t really love someone else if you don’t love yourself first. Well, you also can’t really know someone else if you don’t know yourself first.

For tango teachers, one of the hardest obstacles to overcome when working with a student is lack of body awareness. Because tango is primarily a social dance, one that is taken up in middle age by many people, some of whom have never taken a dance class in their lives, many tango students do not have a lot of body awareness when they start out.  Perhaps they have never paid attention to – let alone tried to control – the dissociations that occur in their bodies when they move; maybe they have never thought about the position of their hips in relation to their feet and their shoulders; they have probably never tried to simultaneously drop their shoulders and raise their hearts, while keeping their knees soft and their arms relaxed but in contact with another person … It’s a lot to think about at once for anyone, especially for someone to whom these concepts are entirely new. This does not mean that someone who has never danced cannot learn tango at age 50 or 60. Absolutely they can and many do. But body awareness is one more aspect that takes hard work, practice and patience to learn. (Such disciplines as yoga and Pilates are wonderful for building body awareness – as well as strength, flexibility and balance – and are excellent supplements to tango lessons.)

If we know our bodies and ourselves, we will have better balance and overall control over our own movements. We will also be more inclined to trust ourselves to lead what we intend or follow what we feel. We need to know ourselves as deeply as we know our partners. So it’s not all about our partners. It’s about ourselves and our partners, and if we know both and care for both we will be on our way to dancing as one, which is what we strive for. We could in fact role these first two connections into one entity: the couple, made up of two separate but equal parts. But while we should strive to move and breathe as one, we both bring ourselves to the dance, and it is important neither to be overly passive and to lose our own identities to the other nor to be overly dominant and to overshadow the other.

Connection Three: The music. This connection is my personal favourite. Music is literally what moves me. It is the inspiration behind my every step and every gesture.

But musicality is a funny thing in Argentine tango. Because we can improvise so widely on the music, because there are no set patterns forcing us to start something new with each new phrase or mark every strong beat with metronome-like regularity, teachers often avoid setting sequences to music in any specific way and students often ignore the music completely, saying that it’s too much to think about on top of everything else. But this is a mistake. The dance and the music cannot be treated as separate entities. If students get used to treating the music as background noise it will be difficult to later backtrack and use the rhythm as the driving force that guides their every action.

As dancers, we should be living and breathing the music as any other instrument, marking the rhythm and painting the melody. Otherwise, why choose tango music, or indeed any music at all? We dance differently to every type of music and to every orchestra – or at least we should. It is not even enough to just listen to and try to follow the music: We need to let the music into our bodies and our hearts, to lead us, to become one with us. Just like that perfect partner.

Photo: Jacques Guibert

Connection Four: The floor. This one sounds obvious, yet it is amazing how many people have trouble keeping both feet on the floor. Sure, we all know we must touch the floor when we walk; we don’t have much of a choice. But it is more than that in tango. We need to be fully aware of the ground and our connection to it. The ground, well, grounds us. It supports us, stabilizes us and gives us power.

It supports us best when we work with gravity, letting it soften our knees and weigh down our feet, hips and shoulders, so that we can stand straight and tall, lengthening the spine and lifting the heart for both balance and elegance. In yoga, when they do a tree pose they talk about the roots – a tree’s connection to the ground – being what allow it to stand so tall and not fall over. It is the same for a tango dancer.

The floor stabilizes us when we have both feet in connection with it as often as possible, the supporting leg grounding our axis and the free leg widening our base of support and providing an anchor. Think of how a tree’s roots spread out beyond the base of its trunk.

The floor gives us power when we use our supporting leg to propel our movements, both steps and pivots. This power provides ease of movement and a clear message to our partners.

Teachers talk about caressing the floor, licking the floor (with our feet, of course!), painting on the floor, being friends with the floor and knowing the floor intimately, including every crack, bulge and dent. Do all of these things: be one with the floor and it will help you be one with yourself, your partner and the music.

 

Connection Five: The world around us. The last connection is by no means the least important. Many dancers neglect this one, though.

We often say that when things are just right with our partner the rest of the world disappears. It is like we are dancing in a bubble. While this is true, our bubble must be transparent so that we don’t collide with or entirely pop other couples’ bubbles mid-tanda. So we need to dance respectfully, limiting backward steps, refraining from tailgating or abruptly cutting in front of others and not taking up too much space on a crowded floor.

But instead of just dancing around all the other couples and treating them like obstacles, we should try to dance with them. If everyone did this, the flow in the milongas would be so fluid, pleasant and, in the end, easy to navigate. Tango salón is a social dance, so all those other dancers are an integral part of our art and our experience. We need to accept that, and accept that our dancing plans and patterns need to constantly change and evolve because of what is happening around us. Not easy, perhaps, but imagine the whole room moving as one, to the same music, on the same floor, each in a different body and with a different partner, but in harmony. It would be tango bliss.

Every now and then, all five connections will fall into place at once: Our bodies will move with ease and confidence, melding at once with our partners and the music, fully connected to and supported by the floor and in harmony with those around us for that perfect dance that transports us and reminds us why we so love tango.